Decision Point
Every day of our lives we are faced with a Decision Point. Some are minor and we don't give them a second thought, like what we wear or what to have for dinner or which route to take to work? Others have more serious, lasting consequences, such as, should I quit a job or make a large purchase such as a house or car. Some have moral consequences. Should I keep a secret from my partner or lie to my friend? After all, telling them the truth may hurt their feelings. With any major or moral decision point we make, we will wonder whether we made the right choice. Of course, there will be times when we know before hand that we are making a bad choice, but we make it anyway. Sometimes we take the path of least resistance because we don’t have the fight in us anymore. Then there will be the times when we will weigh all the odds, consider all of the options and take a "leap of faith." There are no guarantees in life. Nothing is certain. That is why it's called a "leap of faith."
You make up your mind based on what you believe to be best and hope you are right. You always analyze the current information at hand. Mistakes, if they are made, are simply lessons learned, nothing more. So, if things don’t work out, re-evaluate your current information and make your choice. Base it on doing the right thing; take into account all concerned parties. We cannot please everyone all the time, so do your best, and do what you feel is right. Do the right thing because it is the right thing to do, not because you feel that it is what someone else would want you to do. There is no way of knowing what's coming next in life. We don't even know if we will be here tomorrow, let alone what it will bring. For every action, there is a reaction. No matter how big or small, the choices we make will affect not only our life, but also the lives of those closest to us. Sometimes the thought of coming to a big decision point scares us so badly that we become paralyzed by our fear and we refuse to do anything at all. We decide to not do anything. Keep in mind, not doing anything IS your decision point. Think about that for a moment. Doing nothing has become your choice! You decided to do "nothing". For better or worse, you have to keep moving. You have to keep making choices. All you can do is hope that you will not hurt others with your actions. Remaining silent sometimes will have an adverse effect on those around you. Sometimes innocent people suffer whenever we refuse to stand up and come to a decision point. Do your best to be fair and truthful. No one has ever improved their life by waiting for things to change while remaining passive. Are you faced with a big decision point and don't know what to do? Don't allow yourself to become stagnant. Have you ever seen water that doesn't flow? It is stagnant and green...eww! You don't want to become like that, for sure. Talk to someone you trust. Research your options, evaluate your current information and decide. It's never too late to change the course of your life. No matter how long you have been on the path that has brought you discomfort, loneliness, heartache and emotional turmoil, it is not too late to try a different route. Remember, life is a journey. You’re never a failure; you only have experiences. Use your experiences to make better choices! The path you have taken may not have given you the best circumstances, but there is a world full of other paths that you can take. If you stop moving, it ends, you are unfulfilled, and you have doubt. You wonder if your dreams would have come true, IF only you had made that decision… I don't believe that people make wrong decisions because things don't turn out the way they would have liked. Decisions are based on the information and knowledge at hand. As we get older, we look back at past experiences and decide that we wish we would have made different decisions. We can only base our decision point and choose, based on the information and experiences that we CURRENTLY have. Sure we have regrets, but NEVER consider yourself a failure because you made an incorrect decision/choice! Always remember that it was based on the information you had at the time. Remember that if things are not going the way you would like, do something different to get different results. If nothing changes... neither does your situation. Ponder that for a moment. We can't stay in the same cycle of decisions/choices and expect things to be different or change to come. When life gets tough, there is a lesson to be learned. Evaluate and see if it is for personal growth. Don't resist; insist on change to be all you can be in life.
Life is like a garden.You reap what you have sown. Did you choose the seeds you planted? Are you pleased with what has grown? You are the only person, that can tend your garden's needs. Did you nourish all your flowers? Or were they overtaken by weeds? Remember to pray for sunshine, but do not curse the rain. You can't enjoy the good things, without understanding pain. Sometimes the seeds we tend, will wither and will die. It's not required that we succeed, we only have to try.
Communication and Conflict
Sharing insights from the practice of Mediation - a process designed to promote effective communication and conflict resolution.
What Do You Do About Those "Needy People Relationships"?
Needy people relationships can be a challenge to deal with. There are people we love in our lives who seem to need us more than everyone else. You can't always see the development of relationships with needy people ahead of time. Many times they develop slowly and your needy person becomes more and more needy. You slowly get sucked into this cycle of need. It can be draining and exhausting spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally.
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