RelationshipsFirst, you have to love yourself enough to do that. People who don’t have self-worth tend to not demand respect in the relationships they’re in. Why? You don’t think that you deserve it. Will no one else love you? Only you can answer those questions but once you begin to love yourself, truly love yourself, you will not allow others to be disrespectful to you. You are worth setting boundaries that will not allow others to hurt you. You have heard the saying, “give em an inch and they’ll take a mile”. Never be used, people who love you, WANT and DESIRE whatever makes you happy! Relationships are always a two way street. Change will never happen if only one person sees the problem. Do not be the only one working on the problem. If you are going to work on something, let it be yourself. You cannot change another human being so do not get frustrated and try. The intent of this site is to give resources, support, awareness and education on how to have good relationships, better communication, become a better YOU, as well as, how to know if you're not in a healthy relationship(s); things you can do to help yourself and loved ones who find themselves in bad relationship(s). In addition, we will cover what you need to look for to see if your teen is dating the wrong person or hanging out with the wrong crowd. Abuse issues will be among our materials; adult and childhood. Upon your request, we will send you resources and information that will put you in touch with the right people in your area if you're in an abusive situation--or you can choose to confidentially correspond with us and we will be happy to assist you. If you're not sure, write and we can discuss all of your options. All correspondence is CONFIDENTIAL! Doesn’t everyone DREAM of healthy relationships?? We all dream of having the perfect life. The perfect job, mate, family, home and social circle. The basis for everyone’s happiness is, of course, our relationships. The one’s we have with our boss, co-workers, our mate, family, friends, teachers and classmates. Of course, everyone wants them to be healthy, exciting and always making you feel good about yourself! But how do you make that happen? You must r-e-s-p-e-c-t yourself. If you’re a woman, you’ve probably dreamed of your knight and shining armor as a little girl. Fantasizing of that perfect mate….then when you got your first crush, the innocence of your youth, allowed you to think that it would be just as you had hoped for. But then…what happened?? Some may think relationships just don't work for them and others....maybe they think they just keep "choosing" the wrong people.... If you're a man then maybe you’ve always dreamed of getting married and having children. Visualized that perfect marriage. You have thoughts of coming home to a loving wife, who is never in a bad mood with happy children. The house is clean, bills are paid and you live in a house with a white picket fence. Then as you got older, your discovery-- it is not reality. We know that nobody is perfect; therefore, we cannot be as parents, children, spouses, employers, neighbors or friends. If only we could go back to the innocence of our youth and believe in that perfection again. Believe that everyone would do what he or she said they would do. Remember those days?? Where have we gone wrong? Communication maybe? Or is it the ability to understand one another’s needs, desires, goals and dreams. Trust seems to play a huge role in the way we relate to one another. Do we not trust one another? We want to and I think that sometimes we may even believe we do BUT then we second guess each other and question motives. Wonder whether others are being truthful. Whether or not people really mean what they say. Sound familiar? Why is this? Many factors play a role in our belief system. We come into this world believing in everyone. As children, we trust everyone, then unfortunately, we are so trusting, some of us become targets of people who do us harm. This is how we develop our belief system. It begins with how we are treated, as children. That treatment contributes to how we learn to trust or not trust other people. It has to do with our experiences in life. Simply how we have been treated and that is how our perception about relationships is developed. But not everybody has a bad childhood. The same rules apply; somewhere they too have experienced bad incidents with people, which have the same effect. No matter what stage in life you have had a bad experience it has the same effect. The good news is behaviors are learned! So if they are learned that means we can LEARN how to have good relationships!! Sound good? I know that some of you are reading this saying “get a grip” have you looked around lately, listened to the news, or other people? Actually, I have and I am still optimistic that change can start with just one person, actually two people, you and me.
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